Thursday, 17 June 2010

Oh dear

My son has had a difficult week so far.
He is having difficulty with controlling his temper & has been getting 'stroppy' (as we like to call it) everyday at school but without having a valid excuse for his behavior. He was told by the headteacher on Monday if he disrupted class again he would have to send him home. That means either Neil or I having to leave work to be at home with him. It didn't come to that.
Until this afternoon. I had to leave the shop to get on a bus to get him from school because he hit one of the teachers. Mrs Kirby is a teaching assistant & is there for Jakes benefit to help him with his social skills & she takes the pressure off the class teacher so the other children don't get too distracted by Jakes tantrums. He hit her in the chest.
He has already been banned from playing on the wii this week & now that ban has been extended to the 1st of July. We talk to Jake about his behaviour but he just doesn't have the ability to stop himself 'losing it'. He is always genuinely sorry afterwards & it breaks my heart. I don't know what else to do.
Do we go back to the paediatrician & ask for more help? He was never officially diagnosed but we kept hearing that he was on the autistic spectrum.
I don't expect anyone to come up with an answer, I just needed to get this off my chest :(

Thankyou for 'listening'!! xx


  1. I'm feeling for you Heather. My sister is a psychologist with a special interest in autism and I know she would tell you to go back and ask for more help and a referral to a child psychologist so she can help Jake practise ways of managing his own behaviour. Wishing you all the best.

  2. Heather, I'm so sorry to hear of your problems.You should definately go back to the doctor...if J was diagnosed as being on the autistic spectrum there would be much more help and support for you.
    You could also enquire if there are any parents courses in your area...the are some excellent ones that could give you lots of strategies to help you and J.
    You should never have to feel you are alone...sending you hugs.

  3. Oh Heather, what a week. It's so exhausting when we know our little ones don't mean to hurt others, but can't stop themselves from doing it. I agree with the others. A formal Autism diagnosis would bring with it so many resources. My George is sent on errands within the school when his aide can sense him getting stressed. Being able to leave the situation and do something physical usually solves the problem. Hugs to you!

  4. I ditto all the rest - go back and push for some help - it might be worth speaking to someone at one of the autism charities as they might be able to advise on what you can do to help in the meanwhile, how to push it through with the doctors, and what the school can do to help with the ed psych. I would speak to the school about what you are thinking and doing too, as they might be able to help there as well - wish you both the best for it.

  5. I agree with the previous comments-you need the help of a psychologist-well your son does, and a diagnosis would help access services.

  6. Oh, Heather - I'm so sorry to hear about this. I can only echo what everyone here has said already, and send lots of sympathetic thoughts your way.

  7. Thankyou so much for your comments they mean a lot to me :)

  8. Oh Heather my heart goes out to you my nephiew is on the autism spectrum and he was given a special type of social worker who helps when he needs to talk to someone who is not a parent or too close.this usualy involvs being taken for a game of pool etc which helps. I know it is not the situation as my nephiew is older but their is help out their so I would ask. In the meantime big hugs to you x

  9. Heather I think the girls here have some great advice for you - good luck, I hope you get the extra help needed for Jake.


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